How I Chose A Family For My Daughter

              I can’t say that any part of the adoption process was easier or more difficult than any other part.  What I can say is that, for me, it seems that everything had a flow to it that placed pieces where they needed to be when they needed to be there.  It felt like once I let go and realized that this was my choice, that I had options and...

My Story

I really never thought that I would be in a position in my life where I would consider adoption as an option for me.  I am a mother of 3. I’m a great mother, in fact. I love my children and I love everything about being a mom. When I found out I was pregnant with my 4th child, I was very excited.  I am divorced from the father of the first 3 and they spent half of the week at their dad’s house. I...

Ask A Birthmother

Perhaps you are thinking of adoption for your baby and have questions.  Maybe you are family or a friend of a birthmother and don’t know what to say or are having trouble understanding how she may be feeling. Or maybe you are an adoptive parent who would like to understand your child’s birthmother a little more!  It’s never the same situation for every birthmother and every person has their own...

Affording Adoption

…….. A few seconds of silence, that is usually what follows when I answer a prospective adoptive family’s question in regards to the fees associated with the adoption process. There are also a few occasions where the tone of the adoptive mother/father changes as if I just offended them. And in many ways yes, I have offended them! Here is a family who has been guided to adoption; they have opened...

Lingo List

I thought  this list of Adoption Lingo might be helpful for those just starting the Adoption process. You will see or hear these abbreviations from time to time. TRIAD         The three parties to an adoption: adoptee, birth parents and adoptive parents; however, since the adoption community has become more vocal, new terms are being coined such as constellation, circle,...